Friday, 16 November 2012

Sleep, please?!

Parenting isn't a competiton, but when a friend complain yesterday about her children waking her up every 2 hours the night before my first thought was 'you got 2 hours unbroken sleep? You lucky thing!' I didn't say that as I know how incredibly unhelpful that would have been, but it is how I felt. Last night I only saw 4am once, I think I saw every other hour several times.

It has been a hard couple of weeks, sickness bugs for me and the little one, horrid colds and chesty coughs, and suspected ear infections again. Plus I think we have more molars coming through so it all makes for very unsettled sleep. They never sleep through but it isn't normally quite so horrendous! Then DH was away for a couple of days in Prague, how I wished I was there, it is a beautiful city and one I love.

But then I realise how fortunate and blessed I am. My boys are generally very healthy and have never had any serious health worries. They may wake me up in the night but I am so blessed to have them and be their mother. DH may have been away having lots of lovely food on expenses, but he is never gone for more then 5 days max, and he is here to support us. He may not be perfect, but he is definitely one of the good guys.

And parenting really isn't a competition. We all have our own trials and issues, but we should all be here to support each other through them, not out do them.

One thing I have been grateful for is the sunshine. It may be cold but when I feel grumpy there are few things better then getting out for a walk. Where we live there are so many beautiful places to walk just a stones throw away. A friend has just shown me a new and beautiful place to walk, then today I took my SIL's dog on my favourite walk from childhood.

Sometimes I just need to step back and breath and remember that although I will never be a perfect parent, that isn't the task. The task is for my children to grow up happy, safe, secure, challenged, stretched, supported and most importantly knowing they are loved, and that is something I am trying my best to do.


Hazel said...

hugs xxxx

Bernardeena said...

Fortunatly sleep has improved and back to only 3 wakings in the night so feeling a lot more human again. Lack of sleep was not doing my temper any favours but we are all doing better for getting more sleep and the colds seem to be finally on the way out.