Thursday, 21 June 2012

Spanking - A rant.

There are times when facebook winds me up. More to the point there are times when the rubbish that people post on facebook really wind me up.

Todays offering was about laughing at people who are against smacking, and that kids who aren't smacked show no respect and have no problem and that is the problem with the youth of today. I did leave a comment but almost instantly deleted it, and I have come here to rant instead. I'm still tempted to go back and rant though....

I shall start with this little gem "I didn't fear them, I feared getting caught doing something wrong" Fear. Fear is my biggest issue. It isn't just in the moment of the actual smack. It isn't just in childhood. It isn't just with the person doing the smacking. I was smacked as a child. It left me with a fear of leaving my children with my mother as I didn't want her to treat them like she treated us. We have talked through this together but it has been a very real issue for me. It left me with a fear of anger. It has left me scared that whenever someone gets angry and starts shouting that someone is about to get leathered.

Next offering is this "I wasn't abused, I was disciplined, this is why kids nowadays have no respect for anyone" Firstly, not smacking does not equal not discipling. I can discipline my children without smacking thank you. Secondly smacking a child does not teach them respect, it taught me quite the opposite infact. Disdain maybe, dislike definitely at times, and anger. I respect a lot of people, oddly enough they didn't need to belt me to get that respect.

Smacking can teach children if you don't like someones behavious it is ok to hurt them. This is not something I want my boys growing up believing.

You may laugh at my decision not to spank, but it is one I whole heartedly believe in.


Evelyn said...

Amen to that! I completely agree with you. To me parenting is about modelling for your child the type of behaviour you want to encourage. I don't hit my partner if he doesn't do what I want so why would it be ok to hit a defenseless child?